Raising Kids with ADHD: A Practical Guide

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Raising Kids with ADHD: A Practical Guide

July 16, 2025 | Sasha Hileman, Psy.D. | 4 min. read

Developing Self-Compassion

Parenting a child with ADHD is a marathon, but with science-backed strategies, you can help them thrive. As a child psychologist, I draw on research to offer practical tools for
navigating ADHD, a neurodevelopmental disorder affecting 5–10% of kids, marked by challenges in attention, impulse control, and hyperactivity.

ADHD stems from differences in the prefrontal cortex and dopamine pathways, causing distractibility and impulsivity (Journal of Neuroscience, 2017). These kids may also face emotional dysregulation or social rejection, but they often shine in creativity and resilience. Research shows consistent support improves academic, social, and emotional outcomes (Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 2018).

Strategies: Create structure with visual schedules for routines like homework, reducing cognitive overload (Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology, 2014). Break tasks into 10–15-minute chunks with breaks to boost completion. Use timers or alarms as reminders. Positive reinforcement—praising specific behaviors like starting tasks—outperforms punishment (Clinical Psychology Review, 2009). Encourage 30 minutes of daily exercise, like biking, to boost dopamine and focus (Pediatrics, 2016). Prioritize sleep with a tech-free bedtime routine, aiming for 9–11 hours. Limit recreational screens to 1–2 hours daily to reduce inattention.

Emotionally, validate feelings (“I see you’re upset”) and teach calming techniques like deep breathing. Highlight strengths through hobbies like art. Role-play social scenarios to build confidence. Collaborate with schools for accommodations like extra time and consider therapy or medication if symptoms persist.
It’s exhausting, but every routine or reward builds your child’s skills. Start with one step, like a morning checklist, and consult a psychologist or pediatrician for support.

Resources: CHADD, ADDitude Magazine, American Academy of Pediatrics, National Institute of Mental Health.

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Raising Resilient Kids in a Fragile World

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Raising Resilient Kids in a Fragile World

July 16, 2025 | Sasha Hileman, Psy.D. | 4 min. read

Developing Self-Compassion

Parenting today is challenging, with cultural shifts often undermining kids’ resilience. As a child psychologist inspired by The Coddling of the American Mind by Haidt and Lukianoff, I offer evidence-based strategies to foster your child’s ability to navigate life’s challenges.

Resilience—adapting to stress—grows when kids face manageable setbacks. A 1998 Developmental Psychology study found that overcoming small challenges builds problem-solving skills, while overprotection increases anxiety (Journal of Child Psychology, 2016). Social media amplifies this, with a 2021 JAMA Pediatrics study linking excessive use to heightened emotional sensitivity, especially in teens. “Safetyism,” an obsession with shielding kids from discomfort, discourages risk-taking, weakening neural pathways for adaptability (Nature, 2019).

To build resilience, focus on emotional regulation, social competence, and a growth mindset. Let kids fail safely—like forgetting homework—and discuss lessons learned. Assign chores to boost responsibility and encourage physical risks, like climbing trees, to build confidence. Teach emotional reframing: if they say, “I’m terrible at math,” ask, “What’s one thing you did well?” Model calmness during stress and practice short mindfulness exercises to strengthen emotional skills. Promote free play and group activities like sports to enhance social skills and empathy. Praise effort over outcomes to foster a growth mindset, as Carol Dweck’s 2006 research shows.

Parenting in a world that prioritizes safety over growth is tough. You’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed. Start small: try a device-free playdate or share a story of your own challenges. These steps build kids who thrive amid adversity. For guidance, reach out to a psychologist or counselor.

Resources: The Coddling of the American Mind, American Psychological Association, Mindset Works, National Institute of Mental Health.

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What Does an Autism Evaluation Look Like?

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What Does an Autism Evaluation Look Like?

April 3, 2025 | Eleonora Sadikova, Ph.D. | 6 min. read

In a previous post, we discussed what autism is, as well as what it isn’t, in this post, we explain what a typical autism evaluation may look like, as well as some of the reasons why an individual may seek one for themselves or for their child.

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What does an autism evaluation look like?

If you are considering an autism evaluation for yourself or your child, you may be wondering what the process entails. While the specifics may vary depending on the clinician or setting, most autism evaluations follow a comprehensive and structured approach to gather a full picture of an individual’s development, communication style, sensory preferences, and daily life experiences.

Initial Consultation and Developmental History

The evaluation process typically begins with an initial consultation, often in the form of an interview or intake session. For children, parents or caregivers are usually asked detailed questions about early development, behavior patterns, strengths, and areas where support may be needed. Adults undergoing evaluation may reflect on their own experiences, challenges, and sensory preferences.

This step is crucial for understanding an individual’s background and history, including early communication milestones, sensory sensitivities, social experiences, and daily routines. Family history may also be considered, as autism tends to run in families.

Comprehensive Assessment and Observations

Assessments are designed to be engaging and comfortable, especially for children. Clinicians often use naturalistic observations and interactive activities to ensure the evaluation feels supportive rather than stressful. Autism evaluations usually involve a combination of standardized assessments, behavioral observations, and self-reports or caregiver reports. Some of the most common components include:

  • Parent and Teacher Questionnaires: These provide insight into how an individual functions in different settings, such as at home, school, or work.
  • Play-Based or Structured Social Assessments: For young children, evaluators may use interactive play-based tasks to observe social communication and engagement.
  • Cognitive and Adaptive Functioning Assessments: These help to understand how an individual processes information, solves problems, and navigates daily life tasks.
  • Sensory Profile: Many autistic individuals experience sensory sensitivities, such as heightened sensitivity to sounds, lights, or textures. Evaluating sensory preferences and challenges can help in understanding comfort levels in different environments.

Feedback and Understanding the Results

After completing the evaluation, the clinician provides a detailed report that includes findings, insights, and recommendations. This report highlights both strengths and areas where support might be beneficial. A neurodiversity-affirming approach ensures that the focus is not solely on challenges but also on the individual’s unique abilities and potential.

The feedback session is an opportunity to ask questions, gain clarity, and discuss next steps. Recommendations may include school accommodations, therapy options, workplace adjustments, or community support resources. The goal of the evaluation is to provide meaningful insights that help individuals and families better understand their needs and find strategies that promote success and well-being.

    Why Seek an Autism Evaluation?

    An autism evaluation can be a powerful tool for self-understanding and advocacy. Some people seek an evaluation because they have long-standing questions about themselves or their child. Others pursue testing to gain access to accommodations, educational support, or workplace adjustments.

    Early identification can help children receive the right support at critical developmental stages, while a late diagnosis can provide adults with a new framework for understanding their past experiences. Regardless of age, an autism evaluation is not about labeling—it’s about understanding how a person’s brain works and finding ways to support them in a world that may not always be designed with neurodivergence in mind.

    Understanding autism through a strengths-based and neurodiversity-affirming lens allows for greater acceptance and support. Whether you are seeking answers for yourself, your child, or a loved one, an autism evaluation can be a meaningful step toward self-awareness, empowerment, and access to resources that enhance quality of life.

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    What is Autism?

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    What is Autism?

    April 3, 2025 | Eleonora Sadikova, Ph.D. | 5 min. read

    What is Autism? | Autism Awareness Month | Orchard Mental Health Group

    April is Autism Acceptance Month, a time to celebrate, uplift, and advocate for autistic individuals. Rather than focusing on “awareness” alone, the goal is to promote acceptance, understanding, and meaningful inclusion. This month encourages us to challenge stereotypes, support autistic voices, and create a world where all neurotypes are respected and accommodated.

    What is Autism?

    Autism is a naturally occurring variation in how brains process information, communicate, and experience the world. It is not a disorder to be “fixed” but rather a neurotype—one of many ways human minds work. As we deepen our understanding of autism, it is essential to separate outdated myths from the reality of neurodivergence and approach it with respect, acceptance, and accurate information.

    What Autism Is

    • A Neurodevelopmental Difference – Autism is a brain-based difference that influences how a person perceives, interacts with, and responds to their environment. It is not a disease or a behavioral problem but a valid and meaningful way of experiencing the world.
    • Diverse and Unique – The phrase “if you’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person” holds true. Autism presents in endless variations, with each individual having their own strengths, challenges, and preferences.
    • Lifelong – Autism is not something that “goes away” with age or therapy. Autistic individuals grow and change like everyone else, but they remain autistic throughout their lives.
    • A Different Way of Communicating and Socializing – Autistic people may communicate differently, whether through speech, nonverbal methods, scripting, or other forms of expression. Social norms and expectations may feel unnatural or unnecessary, but this does not mean autistic people are uninterested in connection—it simply means they engage with others in their own ways.
    • A Valid and Valuable Identity – Many autistic people see their neurotype as an integral part of who they are, not as something separate from their identity. Autism is not a collection of deficits; it is a different way of being in the world, often accompanied by deep passions, unique insights, and creative problem-solving skills.

    What Autism Isn’t

    • A Tragedy or a Burden – Autism is not a catastrophe that befalls a family. While autistic individuals may experience challenges—often due to inaccessible environments or a lack of understanding—the idea that autism itself is inherently tragic is outdated and harmful.
    • A One-Size-Fits-All Condition – There is no single “look” of autism. Stereotypes, such as assuming all autistic people are either nonverbal or savants, erase the vast diversity within the autistic community. Many autistic individuals experience a mix of strengths and challenges that shift over time.
    • Caused by Vaccines or Parenting Style – Science has repeatedly debunked the myth that vaccines cause autism. Autism is primarily genetic and is not the result of poor parenting, trauma, or environmental factors.
    • Only a Childhood Condition – Autism does not disappear in adulthood, though many autistic people learn to mask (hide) their traits to navigate a world built for neurotypicals. Many adults, particularly those socialized as girls or those from marginalized communities, may not be diagnosed until later in life.
    • Defined Solely by Deficits – Traditional medical models have often framed autism in terms of impairments, but this perspective ignores the richness of the autistic experience. Autistic people bring deep focus, unique problem-solving skills, and innovative thinking to many aspects of life.

    Moving Toward Neurodiversity-Affirming Perspectives

    Autism is not something to be “cured” but rather understood and accommodated. A neurodiversity-affirming approach acknowledges that autistic individuals have valid needs, perspectives, and ways of engaging with the world. Instead of focusing on changing autistic people to fit into neurotypical norms, we should work toward making society more inclusive, accessible, and accepting of all neurotypes.

    By embracing autism as a natural part of human diversity, we can foster a world where autistic individuals are supported, respected, and empowered to thrive as their authentic selves.

    In the next post, we will describe what an autism evaluation may look like, as well as explain why an individual may seek one for themselves or their child.

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    A 30-Day Mental Health Challenge: Small Steps, Big Impact

    March 22, 2025 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 5 min. read

    Forming a mindset geared toward emotional wellness is not a trivial task. However, with small steps it is tangible to foster positive changes in your overall mental health. Having a thirty-day mental health challenge is an approach to form structure, prioritize self-care, build emotional resilience and promote emotional wellness. Below are manageable activities that encourage mindfulness, self-care and accountability for your mental health. 

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    Day 1: Gratitude Journal – document 3-5 things that you are grateful for. This activity redirects your focus toward positivity. The journal entry may take the form of a list, paragraph, and/or drawings of what you are grateful for. 

    Day 5: 10-Minute Walk – Immerse yourself with nature. Venturing outdoors has proven benefits for your mental health. Nature and sunlight boast endorphins and reduce the body’s stress hormone. 

    Day 10: Digital Detox – Refrain from your electronics. This activity may be difficult to complete, but it produces a huge reward. It is proven that taking a time out from your screens allows the mind to relax, which decreases racing thoughts, slows breathing and decreases the heart rate. Spending an evening without your screen provides time to reset your mental energy.

    Day 15: Reach Out – Connect with a friend or family member. Support network interaction is a vital component of emotional wellness. It will not only strengthen the foundation of your support system, but it may brighten someone’s day to hear from you. 

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    Day 20: Creative Break – Set aside time to embrace creativity. Take 45 minutes to color, draw, or paint. These activities will not only relax the body, but acts as a grounding exercise, thus lending a hand to regulating your emotions. 

    Day 25: Affirmation Practice – positive self-talk is a simple way to build confidence, provide encouragement and foster resiliency. Repeating a phrase such as “I trust myself and my decisions” or “I deserve love and respect” helps to develop self-compassion.

    Day 30: Reflect – Reflect on the month and make notes of what was most beneficial and what worked well for your overall mental health. Set aside time to engage in a thirtyday mental health challenge periodically throughout the year, it is worth it!

    This challenge creates activities that keep your emotional wellness at the forefront of your mind, which often takes a backseat in our hectic lives. 

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