Effects of Childhood Neglect on Adults

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Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect on Adults

December 4, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 3 min. read

Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect on Adults

Childhood is a formative time when emotional experiences shape how we understand the world,  relationships, and ourselves. While much attention is given to overt forms of abuse, childhood  emotional neglect (CEN) can be equally damaging. Unlike physical or emotional abuse,  emotional neglect is often invisible and difficult to identify because it involves the absence of  necessary emotional nurturing and validation rather than the presence of harmful actions. 

Adults who experienced emotional neglect as children may struggle with unresolved emotional  issues, even if they don’t fully understand where those feelings come from. This blog will  explore the impact of childhood emotional neglect on adults, how to recognize the signs, and  steps toward healing and recovery. 

What Is Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)? 

Neglect during childhood refers to the omission of adequate emotional care during the child’s developmental years. These years are impressionable and lay the foundation for all emotional  growth to follow. This emotional neglect during childhood can have an adverse impact on the  adult in the following ways: 

  1. Struggle to express emotions: difficulty emotionally connecting to others and/or expressing emotions to others. 
  2. Self-Worth: struggles with confidence and often feels incapable. Despite high achievements, the individual often feels unworthy. 
  3. Fear of Intimacy: leads to avoidant attachment style, fear of and staying away from forming intimate relationships, thus isolating self. 
  4. Boundary Issues: difficulty saying no to others; often longs to please others and  ignores their own wants and needs. 
  5. Distrustful of Others: struggle to rely on others because they fear that their needs will again be overlooked.

Signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect in an Adult 

  • Emotionally numb 
  • Difficulty identifying emotions.  
  • Refrain from relying on others due to fear of disappointment. 
  • Poor self-worth 
  •  Struggle establishing boundaries and place other’s needs before your own
  • Struggle to form intimate relationships 

Healing from Childhood Emotional Neglect 

  1. Validate your Feelings: acknowledging your emotional needs is an essential component within the healing process. This step is vital because it lends itself to the belief that is often manifested, that your feelings are irrelevant.  
  2. Emotional Awareness: emotional neglect often leads to stunted emotional growth, therefore,  making a habit of identifying your feelings can help to mature in this area. Make it routine to  check-in with your emotions and journaling and seeking therapy can be a great approach for  emotional awareness. 
  3. Prioritize Self-Care: those who aim to please others and avoid their own wants and needs  would benefit from prioritizing self-care. 
  4. Seek Therapy: professional therapy can be an asset to individuals that endured emotional neglect during childhood. It can help to explore and process from your trauma.  
  5. Build Trust: begin to form relationships with others. Building emotional intimacy takes  patience, but slowly working toward this goal will ease you into fulfilling relationships.

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Navigating Mental Health During Transition

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Navigating Mental Health During Transition

October 22, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 3 min. read

Navigating Mental Health During Transition

Transitions in life are always occurring. It may be a new job, a marriage, or sadly a death in the  family. Although some transitions are welcomed and others are not pleasantly reviewed, change  regardless of the form can be difficult to manage. Understanding how to maneuver during transition can be instrumental to safeguarding your mental health. 

Why Change Can Be Challenging 

Most of us are fond of structure and predictable daily routines. This sense of predictability provides us with a feeling of being safe. Therefore, when faced with a life transition our stress  levels are elevated, anxiety is induced, and we feel emotionally fragile. Without the appropriate  tools, navigating these changes can be difficult.

Common Reactions to Change 

  1. Fear: We may fear that this loss of control will be long-term or impact vital parts of our  lives.  
  2. Sense of Loss: We long for structure, therefore, in its absence we want routine or what is  now missing as a result of the life transition.  
  3. Excitement: Because not all transitions are negative, some changes bring joy and  positive energy.  
  4. Resistance: It is a struggle to accept uncertainty into your life. Therefore, an urge to  resist the transition is not uncommon. 

Tips for Managing Mental Health During Change 

  1. Acknowledge Your Feelings. Allow yourself to feel your emotions during times of transition. Be alright with any  emotion that surfaces and without analyzing its presence. It may be helpful to journal  and/or confide in a trusted support person.  
  2. Focus on What You Can Control. Try to centralize your focus on aspects of the transition that you can control versus  components that are out of your ability to change. This approach allows you to feel  grounded and less powerless through the transition.  
  3. Flexibility. Allow yourself to demonstrate flexibility. Being able to easily adjust to change will help  ease symptoms of anxiety.  
  4. Self-Compassion. Practice having grace with yourself. Refrain from self-criticism and filtering only negative aspects, and instead be kind to yourself. 
  5. Stay Connected. Connecting to your support system will allow you to feel love and comfort. 

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A Compassion Meditation

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A Compassion Meditation

October 18, 2024 | Julia Williams, LMSW | 5 min. watch

This meditation is utilized in Compassion Focused Therapy.

It helps to generate a sense of compassion when you are struggling with difficult emotions. It is especially useful when you are having a hard time with self-compassion, because you are drawing the compassion from an outside resource. Enjoy!

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For the Digital World: Apps for Mental Health

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For the Digital World: Apps for Mental Health

October 1, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 5 min. read

Apps for Mental Health

Lysa’s Limericks

The world today is digital and connected to every aspect via the internet.  Therefore, if you are faced with anxiety, depression and/or struggle adjusting to life’s transitions, technology may be a valuable tool to incorporate into your  mental health journey.  

Below is a snapshot of some of the mental health apps that have received positive  reviews.

1. Headspace 

  • Focus: Mindfulness & Meditation 
  • Platforms: iOS, Android 
  • Cost: Free with in-app purchases  

Headspace this app is known for its user-friendly design and variety of  meditation exercises. Headspace offers guided meditations to reduce stress,  improve sleep, and promote emotional grounding. Additionally, this app has  sleep content to assist with managing sleep disturbances.

2. Calm 

  • Focus: Relaxation, Sleep & Mindfulness 
  • Platforms: iOS, Android 
  • Cost: Free with in-app purchases  

Calm is an app that guides its users to meditation and sleep content. Its soothing  interface and wide range of guided meditations, sleep stories, and breathing  exercises. This app also has a library of music and soothing sounds geared to  create a relaxing atmosphere. This app is helpful for those trying to manage  anxiety or improve their overall mental health. 

3. Moodfit 

  • Focus: Mood Tracking & Mental Health Improvement 
  • Platforms: iOS, Android 
  • Cost: Free with in-app purchases 

Moodfit is an app designed to help the user track mood states. Features on this  app allow the user to set goals, track mood patterns and implement interventions  such as cognitive behavior therapy to restructure negative thought patterns.  Additionally, this app offers gratitude journaling and breathing techniques.

4. Sanvello 

  • Focus: Stress, Anxiety & Depression Management 
  • Platforms: iOS, Android 
  • Cost: Free with in-app purchases 

Sanvello offers guided meditation and mood tracking to assist its users navigate symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression. The app utilizes cognitive behavior  therapy to help its users through emotional distress. Additionally, this app allows  its users to take assessments and connect with community support through  message boards. Users can take assessments, set goals, and access community  support through message boards. 

5. Happify 

  • Focus: Positive Psychology & Stress Management 
  • Platforms: iOS, Android, Web 
  • Cost: Free with in-app purchases 

Happify this app utilizes positive psychology as its foundation. It is designed to improve happiness and reduce stress. Features of this app include activities, games and quizzes to challenge negative thoughts and promote a gratitude mindset.

6. MyLife (formerly Stop, Breathe & Think) 

  • Focus: Mindfulness & Emotional Awareness 
  • Platforms: iOS, Android 
  • Cost: Free with in-app purchases 

MyLife this app tailors its features to the user’s mood state at the moment. It  begins with a question “How are you feeling?” Depending upon the user’s  response it suggests breathing techniques, meditations or an activity. This approach helps users tune in to their emotions and choose mindfulness activities  that match how they’re feeling. 

Conclusion 

Mental health apps can serve as an accessible resource to support one’s overall  emotional well-being from the comfort of home. While these apps are not a  substitute for professional care in severe cases, they offer supportive tools for  reducing stress.

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Developing Self-Compassion

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Developing Self-Compassion

September 2, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 4 min. read

Developing Self-Compassion

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Self-compassion and mental health wellness should be synonymous with one another. Yet, it is the negative internal dialogue that is a major component of low self-worth and/or a catalyst to depressive symptoms. We are often forgiving, understanding and quick to excuse both minor and major transgressions committed by others. However, we tend to be unforgiving and relentlessly critical of ourselves.

The term self-compassion is the act of being kind to yourself. Allowing yourself the grace to make mistakes, create an atmosphere free of judgment and to promote positivity inward.

According to a leader within the field of self-compassion, Dr. Kristin Neff believes there are three components within this concept: self-kindness, common humanity and mindfulness (Neff, 2024).

Kindness refers to the acknowledgment that perfection does not exist. You should refrain from negative self-talk and practice kindness, understanding and being content with imperfection.

Common humanity suggests that every individual has strengths and weaknesses and all of us are trying to improve. This thought process will allow you to feel connected to others and less alone in your journey of life. The mindfulness component of self-compassion relates to being grounded in the present. This feature allows you to feel balanced within your thoughts and feelings.

The benefit of self-compassion includes various psychological elements. Those who routinely incorporate self-compassion into their routine experience less anxiety and depressive symptoms. In general, they are more likely to redirect negative self-talk with more ease and confidence. Additionally, self-compassion increases emotional resilience. When encountered with emotional hardship one will have the emotional bandwidth to regroup and move forward. Lastly, those persons that make a conscious effort to utilize self-compassion have improved interpersonal relationships. In short, when one is kinder to themselves, they are also gentle with others.

Reference:

Neff, Kristen, https://self-compassion.org/ (2024)

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The Key to Finding Your Tribe

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The Key to Finding Your Tribe

April 7, 2024 | Naweh Diggs, LMSW | 1.5 min. watch

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