Communication is essential for a marriage to excel. It is through communication that couples  express their thoughts, emotions, relationship needs, and resolve conflict. Although it is the foundation of a productive marriage, communication is often a source of tension within the  union.  

Below you will explore why communication is important within a marriage, typical barriers, and  ways to foster effective communication.  

Why Communication Matters in Marriage

At the center of communication, it is about understanding your spouse. Specifically, it is about  understanding your mate’s wants, needs and overall outlook on life. Communication in a  marriage is vital because:  

1. Emotional Intimacy: sharing your intimate thoughts and being vulnerable within your marriage creates a deep emotional intimacy that helps to bond one another.  
2. Conflict Resolution: Being able to convey one’s perspective effectively and implement active listening skills to hear your spouse helps to build a mature relationship.  
3. 3. Shared Goals and Values: being able to communicate your values and life aspirations creates a shared goal to aim for. Having shared goals and values provides a sense of togetherness.

Common Barriers to Communication in Marriage

Despite the importance of communication, many couples struggle with it. Several common  barriers can get in the way of healthy communication within a marriage: 

1. Assumptions: Many couples tend to assume that they know what the other person is  thinking. These assumptions often lead to disagreements and subsequent disconnect within the marriage.  
2. Avoidance of Difficult Topics: Some couples try to evade topics that trigger vulnerable  emotions or topics they feel may lead to an argument. Avoidance can often end in  resentment and/or unresolved issues. 
3. Emotional Reactivity: Many individuals rely solely on their emotions to navigate  conversations. This is a common irrational thought process known as emotional  reasoning. The premise of this thought method is that if you feel it then it must be the  truth.  
4. Lack of Active Listening: Many couples listen to their partner with the purpose of  defending themselves versus understanding their spouses’ emotions and relationship  needs.  
5. Technological Distractions: Today’s world is full of technological distractions that  pose as a barrier to developing an intimate connection within your marriage. 

Tips for Improving Communication in Marriage

1. Practice Active Listening: Listen to your partner with the intention of understanding  their perspective. Provide your mate with your full attention to gain insight into their  relationship needs. 
2. Use “I” Statements: Frame your concerns using “I” statements rather than “You” statements. This approach allows you to focus on how you feel versus placing blame.  
3. Create a Safe Space for Vulnerability: Communicate with your spouse that your  relationship is a safe space to explore your feelings and express intimate thoughts without  judgment.  
4. Schedule Regular Check-Ins: Ensure that both spouses check-in regularly with one  another to address relationship wants and needs.  
5. Stay Calm During Conflict: Conflict can easily trigger intense emotions. Try to stay cognizant of remaining calm during these times.  
6. Show Appreciation: It is easy for your partner to feel taken for granted. Make sure you  show that your spouse is loved and appreciated. 
7. Work Together on Solutions: Work as a unit to resolve household matters. This  approach fosters a sense of togetherness.  

Effective communication is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage. It requires practice and effort to maintain the skills necessary for effective communication. Strong communication can form  the bond and intimacy needed for a long-term successful partnership.