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September 6, 2024 | Jessie Nolasco-Sandino | 5 min. read

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As we cherish these sun-soaked days, let’s dive into our theme for this month: Self-agency, or Personal-agency. Developing self-agency can profoundly enrich our lives by empowering us to shape our own destinies. While being on a healing journey may seem daunting and mastery challenging, we all possess the potential to cultivate this invaluable trait.

So, what exactly is self-agency?

It’s the inner strength to pursue our self-defined goals despite daunting challenges and struggle. It’s about overcoming obstacles that seem insurmountable and leveraging neuroscience insights that reveal our brain’s ability to predict actions before they happen.

So, how do we nurture self-agency within ourselves? 

As the article below suggests, we can:

  1. Control stimuli
  2. Associate selectively
  3. Move
  4. Position yourself as a learner
  5. Manage your emotions and beliefs
  6. Check your intuition
  7. Deliberate, then act

It’s a journey that requires effort. For instance, activities that distract us from reality hinder our development of self-agency. Since self-agency is about taking charge of our lives, mindfulness and presence are essential. Limiting excessive screen time, whether it’s binge-watching Netflix or endless scrolling on our phones, is one effective way to enhance our agency. Consider getting out in nature and being with all parts of you.

Developing self-agency isn’t easy, so if you catch yourself spending too much time on your phone occasionally, don’t be disheartened. Keep striving to improve your habits, and your future self will appreciate your efforts. Let’s embrace this month with a spirit of determination and empowerment, knowing that we have the capability to chart our own course and achieve our aspirations. Together, let’s unlock the limitless potential of self-agency!

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Self-Transcendence

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Self-Transcendence

September 7, 2024 | Jessie Nolasco-Sandino, LMSW | 4 min. read

The birds are chirping, the sun is scorching, and the weather is shifting over to autumn. During this season, the world seems to be changing, slowing down or picking up momentum, making it the perfect time to discuss self-transcendence.

Just as nature goes through its cycles and starts fresh each spring and summer, humans experience their own cycles of changes. These personal changes aren’t marked by calendars or seasons but by shifts in our mind and body states. Abraham Maslow beautifully captured this concept in his hierarchy of needs, which outlines the fundamental needs of every human being. As we move through these stages, we strive for self-transcendence, reaching beyond ourselves to find deeper meaning and fulfillment.

Yet it is not a strict hierarchy, and Maslow never intended it to be. His concept of human needs is more fluid, akin to the changing seasons. Just as summer can still carry the rain of spring, our needs and emotional states can fluctuate. This analogy aligns with Maslow’s understanding of human needs. Among these, one of the most essential is the need for self-fulfillment, which we achieve through self-actualization. As we operate in this mode, we can ultimately learn to self-transcend, arriving at the highest level of psychological development.

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, Self-Transcendence

So, how do we embrace and explore self-transcendence?  

The answer is practice. Building the skillset to self-transcend doesn’t require grand gestures; it starts with small steps, like facing a minor anxiety or taking ownership of a small mistake. Other times, it may be gradually addressing bigger challenges such as childhood traumas. The more practice is given to building self-awareness and self-acceptance, the closer we’ll be to becoming self-transcendent people who overcome life challenges and achieve life goals. The major takeaway from the concept of self-transcendence is fortifying our inner resources such as self-love to live prosperous and fulfilled lives. 

Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/midlife-reimagined/202402/the-secrets-of-self-transcendent-people?mc_cid=74ce3b1592&mc_eid=859aa1cf45

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Pack Your Strategies for Campus Life

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Pack Your Strategies for Campus Life

September 2, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 5 min. read

Pack Your Strategies for Campus Life

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Thinking about your upcoming semester in college is exciting, to say the least. However, many transitioning freshman are also navigating symptoms of anxiety.

Worrying about courses, if you will make new friendships, and hoping your roommate will be neat and tidy. Transition to college life can be an anxiety-filled period of time. Many of your concerns can be better navigated if you feel emotionally grounded. Here are a few strategies to pack for your campus stay:

Create a structured schedule that not only includes your courses, but incorporates social activities, self-care, sleep, mealtime and fitness. Having a routine helps to feel in more control of your environment. Along with structure, an important element to remember is time management. Allowing yourself ample time for all activities will decrease the chance of feeling overwhelmed, reduce stress and improve your studies.

Become involved with campus activities. Finding your opportunities to not only socialize, but to make an impact within the community is instrumental. Joining social clubs, sports and/or volunteering for a charity can build campus connections, confidence and improve social interactions.

Remember to explore resources on campus. You may be surprised to discover the many resources your campus offers once you take the time to investigate. Study groups, mental health services, transportation and opportunities for social interactions may be just steps away from your dorm.

Lastly, be sure to pack relaxation techniques to ensure that you feel confident about managing episodes of emotional distress. Whether you are anxious about an exam or struggling with writing a paper, you will have an emotional toolbox at your disposal. Deep-breathing techniques, yoga, grounding exercise and guided meditation are accessible and effective coping methods to navigate stress.

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Developing Self-Compassion

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Developing Self-Compassion

September 2, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 4 min. read

Developing Self-Compassion

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Self-compassion and mental health wellness should be synonymous with one another. Yet, it is the negative internal dialogue that is a major component of low self-worth and/or a catalyst to depressive symptoms. We are often forgiving, understanding and quick to excuse both minor and major transgressions committed by others. However, we tend to be unforgiving and relentlessly critical of ourselves.

The term self-compassion is the act of being kind to yourself. Allowing yourself the grace to make mistakes, create an atmosphere free of judgment and to promote positivity inward.

According to a leader within the field of self-compassion, Dr. Kristin Neff believes there are three components within this concept: self-kindness, common humanity and mindfulness (Neff, 2024).

Kindness refers to the acknowledgment that perfection does not exist. You should refrain from negative self-talk and practice kindness, understanding and being content with imperfection.

Common humanity suggests that every individual has strengths and weaknesses and all of us are trying to improve. This thought process will allow you to feel connected to others and less alone in your journey of life. The mindfulness component of self-compassion relates to being grounded in the present. This feature allows you to feel balanced within your thoughts and feelings.

The benefit of self-compassion includes various psychological elements. Those who routinely incorporate self-compassion into their routine experience less anxiety and depressive symptoms. In general, they are more likely to redirect negative self-talk with more ease and confidence. Additionally, self-compassion increases emotional resilience. When encountered with emotional hardship one will have the emotional bandwidth to regroup and move forward. Lastly, those persons that make a conscious effort to utilize self-compassion have improved interpersonal relationships. In short, when one is kinder to themselves, they are also gentle with others.

Reference:

Neff, Kristen, https://self-compassion.org/ (2024)

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Benefits of Journaling and Types of Journaling

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Benefits of Journaling and Types of Journaling

September 2, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 7 min. read

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Author Bio

Lysa is a Licensed Clinical Therapist with over a decade of experience within the mental health field. She has experience with various diagnosis including Bipolar, depression, anxiety, substance use and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Additionally, Lysa is Trauma Certified and treats all ages, from young children to the geriatric population.

Journaling

This narrative form of writing is therapeutic in nature. The simple act of journaling lowers one’s breathing and decreases the heart rate, thus fostering a sense of calm. Journaling is a powerful coping tool to express thoughts and feelings. Moreover, it lends itself to regulating emotions and provides an avenue of personal growth and emotional maturity. Additionally, journaling provides an opportunity to reflect for the purposes of problem-solving and to have a historical snapshot of your accomplishments in life. A significant benefit of journaling is to decrease stress and build emotional resilience.

Should an individual decide to incorporate journaling as a part of their mental health wellness routine, there are many formats to choose from.

Benefits of Journaling and Types of Journaling

Bullet Journaling

This form of journaling combines planning and a to-do list in an organized method to express your thoughts. It is flexible because it can be geared toward any topic and the journal entry can be any desired length.

Bullet journaling is ideal for those who like to be precise and are fond of time management. It’s a great way to keep a log of your goals, accomplishments and gratitude lists. It helps with emotional tracking, such as notating your mood states and emotional stressors. Also, creativity is a huge component of bullet journaling. Designing your journal with color codes, pictures, and graphs is another way that bullet journaling appeals to some.

Guided Journaling

Contrary to the free-form journaling that may first come to mind, guided journaling offers an ordered approach for you to convey your thoughts and emotions in a deep and meaningful way. This form of journaling provides the writer with a prompt or question to promote personal reflection and encourage introspection. The writing prompts or questions can be tailored to meet the therapeutic needs of the patient. For example, it can address trauma, attachment concerns and/or interpersonal relationships.

Guided journaling engages the writer with structure and takes away the stress of brainstorming topics to write about. Guided journaling promotes deep contemplation on recent events, emotions and decision-making. Additionally, this format of journaling helps to process emotions and obtain clarity of your thoughts. This is also good practice to remain grounded and present in your thoughts and emotions.

Collage Journaling

Collage Journaling is a creative and therapeutic tool used to explore your thoughts and feelings. This format combines both written and visual art as an artistic approach of self-expression.

This format of journaling is open to the creator’s interpretation. Many visuals can be used in collage journaling such as photos, glitter, fabrics, paint, magazine and/or newspaper clippings.

For the creative individual, collage journaling can be a liberating and healing avenue to express the deep emotional wounds often associated with trauma. Aside from collage journaling being a method of emotional processing, it also guides one to creative expression and a visual way to present goals and accomplishments.

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