Expanding What We Think of as Trauma

Some examples of trauma include being physically abused by a parent, having a terminal medical illness, being sexually assaulted, witnessing COVID-19 deaths as a nurse in the ICU, finding out a friend has died by suicide, feeling unsafe by the actions of a physician while in their care, being in an emotionally abusive relationship, having a miscarriage, being accosted for your sexual orientation or race, and more.

No type of trauma is easier or harder than others.

Essentially, our brains experience all trauma as “SOS we/they are in danger.” Two people can experience the same trauma and react differently to the experience, but it does not mean the trauma is less valid.

Trauma does not always lead to PTSD but trauma is required for the diagnosis of PTSD.

Oftentimes when we hear the term PTSD, short for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, we think of veterans of war. However, PTSD can happen from any type of trauma and what fits the definition of trauma is quite broad.

Officially, the diagnostic criteria for PTSD from the DSM-5-TR states that a person must have exposure to an actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence in one (or more) of the following ways including directly experiencing the traumatic event, witnessing (in person) the events that occurred to others, learning that the traumatic event occurred to a close family member or close friend, and/or experiencing repeated or extreme exposure to aversive details of the traumatic event. This definition focuses on an acute traumatic event. However, trauma can also be living in a constant state of stress or constantly experiencing frightening events.

Oftentimes, new clients present to therapy and are asked, “Have you had any trauma in your life?” Unsurprisingly, many dismiss their personal experiences as not traumatic because they feel it’s “not that bad” or may not have an understanding of what trauma can be. Or maybe they have only heard of it related to veterans.

However, whether the person considers their experience as traumatic or not, oftentimes their body and mind hold onto trauma responses that impact their wellbeing both physically and mentally.

For example, there may be irrational beliefs that are strengthened by a traumatic experience or created by one. For example, someone may think, “I can’t trust others,” or “the worst things always happens to me,” as a result of experiencing trauma. Unfortunately, those beliefs impact your health and wellbeing. Perhaps your heart races when you smell a certain scent or have a stomach ache every time you walk into your parents’ house, your body is likely having a reaction to the past trauma. Importantly, a person does not need to meet criteria for PTSD in order to discuss and process their trauma history.

In closing, labeling your experiences as trauma does not give it more power, in fact, it has the opposite effect.

It can help you take the reins in your healing journey and change your relationship to your experiences in a positive way. If you are interested in learning more about how trauma responses can manifest, I recommend the book The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. I also recommend exploring your history with a therapist to reflect on how past experiences may be impacting your functioning today, even if you previously did not label those experiences as traumatic.

Please reach out to Orchard Mental Health Group if you are interested in beginning therapy to explore your own traumas and find effective ways to cope with them.