Effects of Childhood Neglect on Adults

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Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect on Adults

December 4, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 3 min. read

Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect on Adults

Childhood is a formative time when emotional experiences shape how we understand the world,  relationships, and ourselves. While much attention is given to overt forms of abuse, childhood  emotional neglect (CEN) can be equally damaging. Unlike physical or emotional abuse,  emotional neglect is often invisible and difficult to identify because it involves the absence of  necessary emotional nurturing and validation rather than the presence of harmful actions. 

Adults who experienced emotional neglect as children may struggle with unresolved emotional  issues, even if they don’t fully understand where those feelings come from. This blog will  explore the impact of childhood emotional neglect on adults, how to recognize the signs, and  steps toward healing and recovery. 

What Is Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN)? 

Neglect during childhood refers to the omission of adequate emotional care during the child’s developmental years. These years are impressionable and lay the foundation for all emotional  growth to follow. This emotional neglect during childhood can have an adverse impact on the  adult in the following ways: 

  1. Struggle to express emotions: difficulty emotionally connecting to others and/or expressing emotions to others. 
  2. Self-Worth: struggles with confidence and often feels incapable. Despite high achievements, the individual often feels unworthy. 
  3. Fear of Intimacy: leads to avoidant attachment style, fear of and staying away from forming intimate relationships, thus isolating self. 
  4. Boundary Issues: difficulty saying no to others; often longs to please others and  ignores their own wants and needs. 
  5. Distrustful of Others: struggle to rely on others because they fear that their needs will again be overlooked.

Signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect in an Adult 

  • Emotionally numb 
  • Difficulty identifying emotions.  
  • Refrain from relying on others due to fear of disappointment. 
  • Poor self-worth 
  •  Struggle establishing boundaries and place other’s needs before your own
  • Struggle to form intimate relationships 

Healing from Childhood Emotional Neglect 

  1. Validate your Feelings: acknowledging your emotional needs is an essential component within the healing process. This step is vital because it lends itself to the belief that is often manifested, that your feelings are irrelevant.  
  2. Emotional Awareness: emotional neglect often leads to stunted emotional growth, therefore,  making a habit of identifying your feelings can help to mature in this area. Make it routine to  check-in with your emotions and journaling and seeking therapy can be a great approach for  emotional awareness. 
  3. Prioritize Self-Care: those who aim to please others and avoid their own wants and needs  would benefit from prioritizing self-care. 
  4. Seek Therapy: professional therapy can be an asset to individuals that endured emotional neglect during childhood. It can help to explore and process from your trauma.  
  5. Build Trust: begin to form relationships with others. Building emotional intimacy takes  patience, but slowly working toward this goal will ease you into fulfilling relationships.

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The Role of Inflammation in Depression

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The Role of Inflammation in Depression

November 27, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 2 min. read

The Role of Inflammation in Depression

Research suggests a correlation between inflammation in the body and depression. It implies that mental health may be linked to physical health. 

What Is Inflammation?

Inflammation is the body’s response to an injury or infection, which fosters healing. If inflammation becomes a chronic condition because of stress, illness or inadequate diet it can adversely affect the brain and mood.

The Science Behind It

Research has found that individuals with depression often have increased levels of inflammation. This inflammation forms molecules within the brain disrupting neurotransmitter systems and impairing the part of the brain that regulates mood. 

Stress is the primary component to inflammation, as it stimulates the body’s immune response. Chronic inflammation can also impact the production of serotine, by interfering with a process that reduces the serotine levels and increases neurotoxins, which lead to depressive episodes.

Potential Triggers

  • Chronic stress: continued stress generates the release of inflammatory substances. 
  • Lifestyle factors: inadequate diet, lack of exercise and disruptive sleep patterns can worsen inflammation. 
  • Medical conditions: autoimmune disease and poor weight control can be linked to increased levels of inflammation.

New Treatment Frontiers

Anti-inflammatory treatments, such as particular diets high in fresh fruit and seafood, exercise, and anti-inflammatory medications, are being researched for their possibility to relieve symptoms of depression.

By addressing inflammation, we may discover alternative approaches to treating depression, continually linking mental and physical health. Therefore, understanding the inflammation-depression connection is essential to address the physiological and psychological components of mental health.

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The Mental Health Cost of Cancel Culture

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The Mental Health Cost of Cancel Culture

November 27, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 2 min. read

The Mental Health Cost of Cancel Culture

Cancel culture has become a prevalent topic in the digital realm.

Specifically, individuals are chastised or ostracized for their actions or options on a public scale. Accountability sets the foundation for emotional and mental growth, but the unyielding method of the cancel culture can be difficult on the psyche.

For those that are targeted the impact can be destructive. Enduring the act of being canceled out can lead to anxiety, depressive symptoms and in some extreme cases suicidal ideation can surface. The public scale of the criticism exacerbates the situation because the person is often subject to judgment from strangers and what’s posted on the internet leaves a permanent reminder.

Cancel culture can often influence the individual engaging in it as well.

The behavior of canceling can promote anxiety about one’s own possible mistakes. Moreover, this can form an atmosphere of individuals being fearful to convey their opinion. Also, the anger displayed within the cancel culture can often trigger emotional burnout and cynicism. 

Social media fosters an environment that rewards negative behaviors versus constructive conversations. The anonymity of the online platform creates mob behavior thus increasing ill-thought decision-making and decreasing empathy for others.

To decrease mental health costs there needs to be an online refocus to conversations that are conducted respectfully and hold individuals accountable without harsh punishment. Additionally, conversations should shift to a willingness to improve and provide individuals with redemption and forgiveness versus fostering an atmosphere of fear or defensiveness, then labeling them as permanently bad.

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Glimmers vs. Triggers

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Glimmers vs. Triggers

November 26, 2024 | Joy Thibeault, LCSW-C | 5 min. read

Glimmers vs. Triggers

Most of us understand what a “trigger” is or have at least heard the word used (ex: “trigger warning”, “he got triggered”, etc).

Triggers are events, sights, sounds, etc that make a person feel less desirable emotions (ex: sadness, fear, regret, anger). Triggers are typically viewed as something a person would want to avoid, or to be aware of and prepare for when they know one is coming.

On the other side of the spectrum, many people have not heard of “glimmers” before.  

I was introduced to the concept of “glimmers” during a Polyvagal theory training a few years ago. A glimmer is some small moment of beauty, uplift, or comfort during a regular day. For example, perhaps you are outside with your dog and you look up and happen to notice a gorgeous sunset. Many of us might notice it momentarily, but we don’t really “bank” that moment or even sit in it for a few minutes and truly turn our attention to it, let it soak in, and enjoy it.

This imbalance of awareness and incorporation of both concepts, can be a place to begin when attempting to manage things like anxiety or depression. If someone is suffering from depression or anxiety, there is often an abundance of “triggers” or “signs of danger” present for the person….things they are apprehensive about, that stack of work on their desk that makes them feel behind each time they see it during the day, the inspection sticker on the car that’s about to expire and they need to attend to, the hat on the rack that their late father used to wear when he took walks, etc, but they don’t have a lot of “cues of safety” or “glimmers” that they notice day to day. Sometimes an effective strategy is to purposefully identify glimmers during your day to day life and make them a more significant part of your day. You could snap a photo of that beautiful sunset and send it to your spouse or best friend with the word “glimmer,” if they know what you’re attempting. You could be sure to purposefully spend more than ten seconds when you spot a glimmer and instead sort of marinate in it for a minute….for example if you see a robin playing outside and robins make you think of a loved one, rather than just letting that thought cross your mind and leave, sit for a minute or two and watch the robin and think of your loved one. This lets that “sign of safety” register in your mind and help to balance or offset some of the many “signs of danger” we encounter day to day.

Once you are good at identifying and sitting with glimmers during your day, you can even expand this skill to a higher level of being able to mentally access those glimmers later when you could use one.

For example, if you have trouble getting to sleep, being able to recall the beautiful sunset you saw with the dog and the warm breeze on your face while you took it in, and mentally reliving/remembering/sitting with that glimmer again for a minute without your mind moving you on to something else, would be helpful in providing your mind with that “cue of safety” before bed.

So, tell a friend about “glimmers” and incorporate it into your friendship…sharing glimmers during the day as they occur.  If you prefer to go it alone, during solitary moments, quietly take note of, and give a minute to those “cues of safety.” You just might find your mood to be better and your mind to be less overwhelmed by all the “cues of danger” out there due to the improved balance you are trying to create.

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When Hoarding Becomes a Concern for Mental Health

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When Hoarding Becomes a Concern for Mental Health

November 26, 2024 | Lysa Kirby, LCPC | 3 min. read

When Hoarding Becomes a Concern for Mental Health

What is Hoarding? 

Hoarding is typically characterized by the difficulty of parting with or discarding possessions. In  most cases, there has been an accumulation of items that clutter the home and interfere with the  individual’s daily routine. Hoarding also has an emotional component. The individual usually  has intense emotions with the mere thought of separating from their possessions.  

Signs of Hoarding Disorder 

  1. Excessive Clutter: the home is no longer functional because of clutter. 
  2. Difficulty Discarding Possessions: the thought of discarding personal items triggers  significant emotional distress. 
  3. Emotional Attachment to Items: a sense of strong emotional ties to items that appear to  be non-functional to others.  
  4. Social Isolation: people with hoarding disorder often feel shame of their living conditions and will isolate fromisolate themselves from society.  
  5. Indecision: struggle to decide if an item is of value or can be thrown away. 

Factors that can Contribute to Hoarding 

  1. Emotional Comfort: possession brings a sense of comfort.  
  2. Fear of Future Need: people that hoard fear that if the item is thrown away, they may  need it in the future. 
  3. Perfectionism: individuals believe that if they hold on to an item long enough, they will  find the perfect use for it.  

The Impact of Hoarding 

  1. Physical Health: when your living environment is unsanitary and/or has fall risks it  becomes a detriment to your physical health.  
  2. Emotional and Mental Health: hoarding is often associated with depression, shame, and  anxiety. The longer the hoarder is in this setting the worse their mental health symptoms  become.  
  3. Relationship Strain: family and friends become frustrated with the hoarder’s behavior.  Often family and friends distantce themselves and tension-filled relationships ensue.  
  4. Financial Burden: many hoarders spend excessive money to gain more possessions.

How to Get Help 

  1. Acknowledge the Problem: recognizing that you have a problem is the initial stage of  seeking help. 
  2. Therapy and Professional Support: seeking professional support from counselors,  professional organizers, moving companies and support groups can provide the  comprehensive guidance that is often needed for a hoarder to better manage this disorder.  
  3. Take Manageable Steps: tackling small and tangible tasks is a lot more manageable for  the hoarder; remember to celebrate the small wins! 
  4. Be Patient: seeking help and improving the hoarding behaviors is a gradual process and  will require a great deal of patience. 

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